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The surface level, general principle only brings mediocrity



A surprising side benefit from my recent addiction to running has been my attention to my health. It was fun to see my weight drop and my body become more defined, but I never planned on changing my diet, practicing yoga or looking into things like heart rate variability. But all of these and more have been some of the side effects from marathon training.

I previous wrote and even designed a poster about my first, great realization. That being how the things that really matter merit daily attention. I realized after running four marathons over the past year, not only the benefits from consistency, but the stark contrast of that which is done daily, and early and without multitasking as compared to the things that are pushed to the afternoon or things that we do only a few times a week.

Never in my little life have a noticed such a dramatic and sustained positive change as that from running six days a week, every week for almost an entire year. That experience brought such illumination and personal conviction about how growth happens, that it affects every other goal or desire I now have.

The idea of doing something… say only weekly is ridiculous, that is, it’s a ridiculous if I actually want to see growth. Saying I’m going to do something in the afternoon or before I go to bed is like saying I’ll be on the intersection of 71st Street and Memorial Avenue precisely at 4:37pm in 4 years. There is no way to know for certain what will happen in four years, or at the end the day when you life is filled with responsibility and family and business needs. But to say I’ll do this as soon as a wake up, is 10x more likely to happen.

The Quick Fix

Anywho, let’s get back to the original idea. As my title eludes, I’m learning to develop the ability to seek out and recognize what brings sustained health or wellness vs what is only a quick pleasure. The fact that I’m becoming a fitness junkie, has heighten my awareness of my body’s needs and changes. I’m more sensitive to aches and subtle pains like never before. As I experiment with low-carb, vegan and paleo diets, I’m even noticing how food affects my body and mood…

Certain things produce a quick jolt of pleasure to my mouth but then bring an energy crash in minutes or hours later. Some foods will cause my stomach to feel bloated immediate after or in the morning. This growing sensitivity with aspirations of improving my physical and mental performance is helping me to develop the discipline of eating better.

So the initial idea here is… To reach my physical and energy goals, I need to increase my attention to my body and what it needs and what it reacts to while minimizing addiction to the temporal pleasures that may come and go… But looking a little deeper, I am seeing an additional application.

The same way I learned about consistency and change from reflecting on marathon training. I am seeing a similar connection in quick pleasures vs sustained wellness. There are some things that are easy to access and bring quick pleasures all while sabotaging another area which is the most important.

As it turning out, the tongue or mouth is intimately connected to my emotions or surface level reality. When I eat something sweet either in response to stress, boredom or hunger there is an immediate and tangible boost. But this initial satisfaction can often be antithetical my long term needs.

My primary application or realization of this applies to information or knowledge gathering. The ultimate goal is living life with purpose and passion and according to my design. How did God make me, what was I built to do, how can I make an impact, etc. But when looking at where I am and where I want to be, there is a large gap. Therefore, the logical step has been to go learn, go study, download an audio book, subscribe to a podcast, fill my mind with experience and wisdom of someone who’s made it.

There is of course, nothing wrong or unhealthy with this approach. This is actually quite logical. However, when you have your eyes on the end result of what you want, and assess whether your approach is actually moving your forward, backwards or nowhere you may think differently.

It’s like when you are hungry and then eat, but 30 or 60 minutes later are once again hungry. What you ate may not have been junk, but the fact that it only satiated your for an hour should indicate that what you digested didn’t really give your body what it needed.

Here is the principle. There are two different aspects of yourself that can be fed or effected. One of them is quick and easy and immediate. The other responds slower, is not as vocal, but it is a better gauge. Only when are looking and questioning your actions and results will you see the difference.

Individual Fulfillment

In my experience, the mind is simple and easy to please. An intellectual itch, caused from a lack or question about my life can be scratched with few key strokes in Google. From there I am drowned with a plethora of ideas and can fall into a glutton of information. In one sense I’m am stuffed, but in another more important sense, I’m just a stuck and unsatisfied. No progress was made. Only an busyness and energy spent.

There is a verse in the Bible that says God’s wisdom is completely different than wisdom of the world. When we are dealing the issues of the heart and trying to bring fulfillment to our souls, we need a God perspective. Not a general principle of seeking first the kingdom or loving God, but a specific, individual idea like, “Peter, feed my sheep… if I want John to remain alive until I return what is that to you? You must follow me.” ( John 21: 17,22 paraphrased)

We can go through the motions of general principles or following the footsteps of others but never step closer to our purpose. We need to know ourselves better and distinguish what is acceptable and immediate to what is ultimately satisfying. Some people will avoid pork to eat a whole-wheat and turkey, but never grow to be aware of their issue to dairy or glutton. They are fixed on a general idea and numb to their unique needs.

I believe there are simple, specific and individual ideas that God has shown each of us. Little discrepancies and differences of how we are to live. Some of us are not watch certain TV shows other types of visual or imaginative stimulants. Some of us need to be aggressively jealous about guarding certain time slots of our day, dedicating time to writing or being around a mentor or participating in our children’s or parents lives.

But following after other people, looking for quick fixes or a simple check lists will only build a habit of surface level change and mediocrity.

There is no universal formula, Biblical or business that can blindly applied and proved beneficial on an individual level. Look beyond the surface, persevere and reflect longer-term. Realize that if you really want to see growth and change, you need to be aware of the subtle effects of your efforts. Find the personal formula or God idea that works for you.

The Opposite of Faith

Image by Adriana Varela Photography

The opposite of faith is not doubt. It’s not fear and it’s not unbelief. 

To the person who is out on a limb, trusting and hoping that God will come through and meet their needs, all of these feelings of uncertainty can be present.

Faith is active in the blind, unseen space between holding on and arriving.

And so, the one thing that can’t be present along with faith is control. Only when you release your grip in something can you claim you have faith in that area. You have to let go in order to give in to the one you’re trusting.

Fear Wrapped Up in “Wisdom”


Lately, I have been feeling constantly busy. And thus, my number one goal is the removal of the busyness, ie. getting stuff knocked out. But getting “unbusy” is only short-term immediate relief, not necessary moving me closer to my design or purpose.

I thought it was wisdom to build the habit of saying “no” in order to stay productive. But the problem is, what I called “productive” wasn’t related to my ideal future but only my nagging present. 

What we call “wisdom” can often be fear in disguise. It appears to wise because it is safe. It is the action, least likely to disturb others or bring harm. But living simply for the avoidance of failure or difficulty isn’t living at all. 

This is the orphan in perpetual survival; who lives only for themselves, being their own savior, protector and sustainer. This is a scarcity mindset whereby we live not for the potential of greatness but for the absence of pain. 

I have to constantly remind myself of my values and what I want. I want peace and I want to live in the center of my design. Peace comes from trust and trust come from communion. Living in my design is a choice that requires faith and faith (which is really trust) comes also from communion.

Earthly wisdom is the ability to predict and work around the winds and the waves… But Christian wisdom is keeping your eyes fixed on Jesus, ignoring or calming the storm and then walking on the water.


Choosing Peace over Freedom


For years my highest value was freedom. Not that I knew it at the time, but as I look back over the years and the choices I’ve made in business…

Working out of coffee shops, refusing to be ‘hired’ choosing to be my own boss and boasting the fact.

Freedom has been the highest priority. 

Not money. Not contribution, purpose or adventure. But freedom. Personal freedom and independent control. 

Freedom is nice, but it isn’t everything.

I think I first realized this after listening to, “Think and Grow Rich” last year. 

What struck me was one of his first principles about the necessity of desiring to be rich. Making it a high priority. And of course with the priority, there comes the assessment and measurement of where you are and where you want to be. 

It hit me that the main measurement I used on a daily basis has been my freedom and control. “Can I do what I want to do today?” Not, “am I making the amount of money I want or need to.” “Can I turn my phone off, take the day off, or tend to the emergencies of family at a moments notice?”

When making management decisions, it was all about my freedom and control, not what could yield the highest ROI. Any ROI decisions were first filtered though my freedom gauge. 

And so, recently I’ve started to shift into prioritizing peace. 

To be honest, I think I thought that more freedom could bring more peace. I thought I needed to be free from other people and self-secure. But that never brought what I was wanting. Even when I made large sums of money, the fact that it was all based on my efforts and my sustaining it just brought anxiety. 

Peace doesn’t from control, but from trust. Peace isn’t centered on self. Something or someone outside yourself is needed.

God’s peace is described as transcending understanding. It goes beyond knowledge and intellect. It surpasses one’s ability to preplan every scenario. It may work through other people or institutions, but it’s core is in the person and character of God.

One last point. 

A few weeks ago I was listening to a podcast from the Bulletproofexec.com with a guy named Peter Sage. One super idea I gleamed from it was the idea that inner health and stability was needed to precede financial health and wealth. 

He said (in my own summarized recollection ) that when the presence of money is the rudder or governor of our soul; ie, if we are happy when we it’s high, and sad when it’s low — we will never see consistent growth. 

But instead, he mentioned that if would could become strong and consistently healthy on the inside, that the volatility money would eventually become stable, stay with us and grow. 

I have no idea of the validity of this idea, but it sounds good to me! I know from experience that I generally fall in the category of being moved by money. And so, with my new priority of seeking peace and trusting God over self, I’m hoping that I’ll see the financial growth as well. 

Create a great day!

- Arvell

Silencing My Inner Critic


I know I’ve heard people talk about this before. But only recently has the reality and necessity of dealing with this issue ever been so apparent. 

The numerous thoughts that come to mind which question, challenge and try to improve my initial idea or direction is a serious problem. 

I use to think I was a perfectionist.

But this can’t be pefectionistic because things are never perfect. They don’t get perfected, but rather refined and refined until there isn’t anything left. My energy is drained and yes, I may have made a little progress, but I’ve been tremendously inefficient. Disillusioned to believe that sweat equals success.  I’ve allowed facets of my mind to keep me spinning in circles. Critical for the sake of being critical and distant from realizing what’s really important. 

I use to think I just needed a better tool or system, a strategy for time management or the perfect app to log all my ideas. 

I thought I needed a VA, EA or PM who could complement my inadequacies and fill in the gaps where I lack. 

But no external person or system can fix what’s broken on the inside. 

You see… I’ve got this critic that never quits. Never sleeps. Never stays quiet for long. My inner critic always gets the last word. Always has one alternative perspective. Always has a backup plan and parallel method. 

And as long as I’m multitasking or changing directions, I’m not focused. I don’t really commit. I always leave the options open. There’s no faith, no trust, just a number of ideas.

Spirit led ideas and proven business ideas. Practical wisdom and personal preferences. Efforts that reinforce my DESIGN, directions that play to my strengths. 

Not sure if you’re catching the pattern. It’s not about what’s right or wrong. The issue for me has been no matter what I choose, there’s always a thought that it may not be right or best way and so I begin coming up with alternatives.

I call this voice, this cause my inner critic.

Last week, after listening to two podcasts and a book that ranged from the subjects of intuition, flow and men/women sexual health. There was a commonality across them about a state when the mind becomes quiet, the thinking brain and the lizard brain are both on back burner and what comes forth is something else…

It’s a place where focus happens; and flow that follows focus. You get into a groove, live in the moment and experience growth and connection. 

When I heard about this I quickly recognized it. Like an old distant friend. Familiar but not frequent enough.

And so, if nothing else is clear, I am now seeing the enemy and I recognize it’s activity. The criticism on myself or others. The judgement. The constant change and multi-streams of effort are the evidence of misguided distracted thinking.

Have you ever experienced this or overcome this? 

Have you read something about it? Overheard a podcast, read an article about overcoming it?

If so, I’d love to hear about it. Please share. 

(Unfortunately I haven’t figured out how to add comments on this template so, pls tweet me @ArvellCraig your comments. )

The Two Kinds of Passion

The first kind of passion is your values and interests. You may be passionate about God, music or art. Some are consumed with the NBA, NRA or politics. 

What you actually do regarding these passions is irrelevant. You just want to give into them, study and know what’s happening with them. 

For example, you may have no musical talent at all, but that doesn’t stop your consumption with buying, listening and sharing the music you love.

The second kind of passion relates to what you do. You long to use a given ability or talent. Perhaps for you it’s writing, dancing, strategizing or connecting to people. Or maybe working with numbers, money, organizing events, etc. 

Though you also have values, it often doesn’t matter what the purpose is surrounding these activities, you will be fulfilled anytime you do them.

Of course, we’d all like to be doing both of these all time. We don’t want to choose, we want it all and we want it now! However, that isn’t always the case.

If you’ve ever felt a little conflict or guilt behind not bringing all of what you are together, here are two simple ideas that have helped me.

The first is realizing that they are both God given and both are equally important. What you want to do and are able to do is built into you just like the things you care about.

Next, the doing passions are the vehicles that bring value to both yourself and others. You don’t always get to serve your own causes and interests. Oftentimes, you need to humble yourself and serve another’s.

But if you can allow this to happen, and faithfully strengthen your talents by constant use; opportunities that align with you values will cross paths. And when this happens you will be ready for it and be truly impactful.


For years, I have been involved in a (FREE) program that helped me recognize these ideas as well as some additional related things. To learn more about both discovering purpose and making an impact visit: www.YourOneDegree.com. You can also, just contact me if you want an introduction and/or coaching. 

How about “Church Study” instead of Bible Study?

Perhaps Christians need to break from studying the Bible and study church. Many know so much about scripture that the fail to know, love or care for their spiritual family and friends. 

"…you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters.” (Matt. 23:23)

"Church" just like the word "religion" is not inherently a bad word, but in todays vernacular, it’s become the scapegoat for the cool kids to label structure, order or dead traditions.

Studying Church, ie. the people and body of Christ, might be more effective for actually living the Bible.

Learning church might lead people to loving one another and accepting on another. 


Teach us to number our days…


This verse has a ‘dying empty’ type of ring to it… In that, with reflecting on the finiteness of our lives, we would then live a different today; making wiser decisions.

Wisdom, as I mentioned last week is to me, making decisions with discipline. It has the ability to gauge the present and future, seen and unseen.

So how do we get wisdom? 

From this verse I see about 3 ways:

In applying our hearts, I see that wisdom doesn’t reside in the head, but is a matter of the heart. My ability to move with wisdom will come from how developed my intuition and discernment is. 

In number our days, I see, we need to realize there is a limitation on our life. But with that perspective we can better take into consideration the effects of our actions, both near and far. 

And lastly, there are two little words, teach us. This reveals the humility and dependence we need. The writer is talking or praying these words. We need help from God to have a heart and perspective for true wisdom.

What is Wisdom?

I have recently picked back up the habit of reading a Proverb every day. (There are 31 Chapters in Proverbs, good for a daily practice every month. From one of the wisest men who ever lived, you can gain insights regarding parenting, business, relationships and other approaches to life.)

One thing has been standing out more than any other. This is the idea of wisdom being discipline, decision making and/or self-control. 

Or I let me say, I’m seeing a large distinctive difference between wisdom and knowledge or information.

I have heard wisdom described as the ability to use knowledge and not the knowledge itself, however that hadn’t really impacted my thinking. 

But now, redefining wisdom as discipline and decision making is resonating…

Every day, and all throughout the day, we are flooded with options and choices. We spend our lives constantly choosing. Most of these decisions are unconscious habits that we’ve developed, others are a little more thought through.

Either way, in addition to an abundance of daily decisions, we also have a tons of knowledge. We often know the best decision for personal interest, the right answer for the long-term and what is most beneficial for others. 

But how do we chose? 

Are we able to defer immediate gratification and decide for our higher purpose and values? This ability is what I’d now call wisdom. 

Wisdom isn’t necessarily knowing the right answer, but the ability to choose in line with what we already know is right. 

This ability to choose is what is most needed by most people. 

Proverbs 4:7 says, “Wisdom is the principle thing. Therefore get wisdom, and in all your getting, get understanding.”